How we respond to whatever is unfolding in our lives is critical. I've found that wonderful things can happen when I have the courage to say "Yes" to those unexpected invitations that emerge at the edge of new beginnings. I see this unfold in my clients lives as well when they are brave enough to step up and say "Yes".
“Say yes to everything you're excited about or afraid of.” - Chris Guillebeau
You see, I believe, that life is constantly inviting us to dive deeper, inviting us to grow and evolve, to connect at deeper levels to what is evolving for us. It’s nudging us to take stock, to look at what is unfolding and ask ourselves:
So invite you to say "Yes" more often to whatever is unfolding in your life. "Yes" to what matters most to you; "Yes", to showing up more and more in your fullness; "Yes" to your life; "Yes" to diving deeper and "Yes" to inquiring more deeply into the things that matter most to you. By changing this one thing, you change everything.
Remember: How we respond is a choice.
In this year of unprecedented challenge and disruption, as new beginnings emerge for you, how will you choose to respond? Will you be brave enough to say "Yes"?
Have you noticed, that often not long after we start out on what seems to be an exciting new role, a new project, or new opportunity we seem to run head long into unanticipated challenges. The excitement of the new beginning is quickly followed by frustration. If you’re like me, you will try everything in your toolbox of tricks and yet sometimes even with all this effort the difficulties still persist.
What I have come to realise is that when nothing seems to work and we have tried everything that we can think of and more, it’s a good indication that the road blocks won’t be solved by your current way of dealing with things.
This is the point where we often start to doubt ourselves, secretly questioning if we have what it takes. Sometimes we blame others, and other times we put it down to bad luck, or life simply being unfair. This is also the point where many of us give up.
In the past I would never have thought to call these experiences an initiation. Yet this is precisely what they are. You see initiations are tipping points marking transitions or significant turning points in our lives that ultimately alter our perceptions and thinking. They are rites of passage, a crossing, a moving between two worlds. They signify the potential for transformation and the potential to be 'reborn' into a new role or a new way of being. What I have found is that viewing our series of challenges from this light moves us beyond the positon of feeling like a victim of circumstance to a much more powerful position of consciously choosing to embrace what we want to grow into. This also enables us to tap into our own potential for growth.
When we can think about the challenges like that, as being part of an initiation we can engage with them as a series of initiating events. Each challenge then becomes an opportunity to grow and to lift our capacity to the next level.
Initiations are also opportunities to become wiser, more compassionate, more skilful, more of who we want to be and more of what we are truly capable of and less like unfortunate victims. From this stand point, instead of shrinking from the challenges and the pain, we can work with them as opportunities.
From this place we are committing ourselves to “rise” to the challenge in the moments when we would rather hide, collapse, or become invisible. When we can commit ourselves to learning and growth in this way we open ourselves up to make space in our lives to act and think in new ways, ways that can enhance our capacity to learn, to change, and to try new things with sense of openness and curiosity.
The more we can embrace our challenges from this standpoint the more we empower ourselves to embrace the opportunities in our lives and the more we can access and trust the vast potential that exists within us.
When we finally have that role or opportunity that we have worked so hard for, this is precisely where we want to be. “Rising” to the challenge and making space to act and think in new ways, ways that can enhance our capacity to learn and dig deep into our potential. Then our series of initiating challenges become a sacred rite of passage.
Originally published on LinkedIn
Article by Maureen Owen – Coach, Facilitator, Organisational Development Consultant
I work with people to create momentum and to reclaim their responses to the challenges they are grappling with, helping them to move towards what they truly want.
Maureen supports leaders and their teams to navigate and lead at the edge. Committed to genuine partnership, she encourages clients to use the challenges they face as catalysts for growth, and the opportunity to learn, to bring more of themselves, their gifts, their potential and humanity forward.